Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. 

Mental strength isn’t often reflected in what you do. It’s usually seen in what you don’t do. Here are the 13 things mentally strong people don’t do:

Waste time feeling sorry for themselves.

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair. Self-pity keeps you focused on the problem and prevents you from developing a solution.

Quit When Things Get Tough.

One of the most important qualities of mentally strong people is resilience and the ability to keep going when they run into obstacles. This is a quality found in some of the toughest people in the world.  They never quit.

Give away their power.

You can’t feel like a victim and be mentally strong, that’s impossible. They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. No one has power over the way you think, feel or behave.

Mentally Strong People

They don’t shy away from change.

Change feels scary, because there is no guarantee doing something different will improve your life. But shying away from change will prevent you from growing stronger and becoming better. The world is changing, and success often depends on your ability to adapt.

Live to Please Others.

Often we judge ourselves by considering what other people think of us. If you are always trying to please everyone, you will find it hard to fulfill your own destiny. That’s why the strongest and most successful people don’t make a habit out of trying to make everyone else happy. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary.

They don’t dwell on the past.

Reflecting on the past is healthy, learning from your mistakes, but dwelling on it keeps you stuck. Mentally strong people acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. The only time you can change your behavior is now, so stay present in the moment so you can take action. Constantly questioning your past choices or romanticizing about the good old days keeps you from both enjoying the present and making the future as good as it can be.

Mentally Strong People

They don’t resent other people’s success.

Resentment is like anger that remains hidden and bottled up. Focusing on another person’s success will not pave the way to your own, since it distracts you from your path. Jealousy shifts the focus from your efforts and interferes with your ability to reach your goals.  Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

They view failure as an opportunity for growth.

Failure is often part of any long journey toward success. Mentally strong people accept that and they choose to use each failure as an opportunity to grow wiser. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
– Thomas A. Edison